Organizing your perfect wedding
From Wedding Planning Guide
Get your priorities right
Now that you have your wedding date, you are ready to start to get on with the rest of your wedding planning. Before we go any further there is one thing we have to do first. That is to make sure you have your priorities right: The wedding is about the celebration of you and your partner dedicating your lives to each other in front of family and friends. The wedding is not the most important part; that is the relationship with your partner following the relationship with your friends and family. No matter what you do, things can still go wrong. This is not about making everything perfect (although as close as possible would be good). Whatever does go wrong, you will be surrounded by people who love you, want the best for you, will try their best to help you, and see that you and your partner have a great day. I like to think of weddings as the cover of the story of your lives. Such a cover is a great way to introduce you as a couple, but it is how you build on the relationship that is what is important. The wedding will give you a great chance to build up that relationship to be able to work with your partner.
Decide how you will work with your partner in the planning and execution of the wedding. How much do you make decisions together about all the details? Do you separate the tasks needed to be done and let that partner make the necessary decisions there? If you choose to do a lot of the planning your self are you going to feel let down and like they are not pulling their fair share? This is where you need to talk to each other about how you expect things to go. If you both have a good understanding of the other person’s expectations then it is easier to meet them and not leave with disappointment or resentment over how something is handled. This is meant to be a time to build on the love you share with each other.
Other people can get involved which can be lovely, but remember it is the building of the relationship of you and your partner. If your parents or friends would like something then it is something you should take under advisement. Do it if you would like to because it would please that person and build on that relationship, but talk it over first with your partner. This is the relationship you’re building to spend the rest of your life with. If you do something that your parents do not approve of or the way they would have liked, they will still love you and be proud of you. All the decisions you do make should be based around the relationship you have with your partner. This is the most important thing you have to protect and treasure.
Empower your self
You want you to know what choices you have, so that you can make the best decisions possible to create your wedding the way you want that fits in to your budget. You also need to know the traditions, expectations, conventions, rights, and wrongs. This does not mean you have to follow them, but know when you are breaking from traditions and doing things your own way. This is where to empower your self comes in: It lets you fill your head with lots of ideas and as much information as possible before you begin to organize your wedding.
There are many resources to help you get more informed. This guide is one example of information to better inform you. You can also ask questions in our wedding forum and talk to other brides there. Other places you can get more information:
- Bridal magazine – Bridal magazines are a great starting point for gathering ideas, to see what the current fashion is, listings of potential photographers, bridal wear, reception venues, etc. You are able to find a good selection of different bridal magazines at your local news agent. One of the best things about bridal magazines is that they generally are more targeted to a specific region and will match the information on the trends in your area. This site focuses on weddings in an international setting.
- Bridal Shows – Keeping a look out for bridal shows will give you a chance to see what a lot of vendors have to offer in one location.
- Internet Websites – There is a lot of great information on the internet to help you out, like this site, and there are many vendors you want to look at who have websites you can browse.
- Internet Forums – A great place to ask questions or to talk to other people who are getting married. Besides your partner, you might be the only one you know who is getting married; it is great to network with other people who are going through the same thing.
- Friends and Family – A great source if they have gotten married recently. You can find out what they found helpful or difficult. Did they have a great photography you could use? Maybe they still have a pile of magazines you can have?
Start with the end in mind (your vision)
For us to plan something, we first must envision what it is going to be like. If you have been to different wedding then you might have an idea already of the kind of wedding you would like. This is about you and your partner, not nessarly just about what people expect there are a lot of options that you have. Some people have early weddings at the beach, others have a more traditional wedding in a church, others still will fly off and get married in another country.
What is your dream wedding, is it that some relative that lives across the other side of the world is able to visit and see you get married, is it something where you want to have it very private with just close friends and family. Image what you want, talk it over with your partner see what they would like.
With that said, there is some precautions here, you are still likely limited by a budget that will dictate how many guests your having, what options are avaliable etc, Also the smaller details you plan the more upset most people are if something goes wrong, this is the celebration of you and partner planning to spend the rest of your life together.
If other people are giving money to help with your wedding then this will possible fit in to the vision of how you want things, cause they might also have something they wish to see or like, and it is a good idea to get there feedback and support since they are helping you. Tho this is your wedding, even if they are paying for everything.
With thinking of your wedding, what memories and thought do you want to leave in the memories of your:
- You and your partner
- Your parents and immediate family
- Your bridal party
- Your extended family
- Your friends
The thoughts and memories while mostly of your wedding day, are also with the experience of planning and getting everything in place. Shopping for the dress, making invites, selecting wedding favors, etc.
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